Addicted Parents

parents who are addicts

Addiction is usually associated with maladaptive behavior and mental disorders. That is why it is not surprising that people who struggle with addiction are usually not able to give it up in order to be parents. An approximate 10-percent of people in North America identify themselves as “recovering from addiction,” while approximately 65-percent of people in North America claim that their lives have been personally affected by addiction. This would indicate that there are far more addicts than there are recovering addicts, many of whom are certainly parents.

Addiction in parenthood is a source of problems on many levels. Addiction is a source of contention between two people who are parenting together, whether it is one parent who is addicted or both. If only one parent is addicted, the other will almost certainly resent and fear their addicted partner. If both parents are addicted, the likelihood of them having a functional relationship is very low. For children of any age, this behavior is detrimental to be around, inspiring maladaptive, antisocial and fearful tendencies because the child does not feel secure in their home environment. In many cases, being raised by an addicted parent will spawn a case of addiction within the child once they mature.

If you or someone you know is trying to parent while addicted, it is recommended that you seek help right away. The addicted parent or parents need to recognize their behavior for what it is and reverse it before they do psychological or even physical damage to the child. Sadly, some addicted parents will be deemed unfit for parenting and will have their children taken from them; a heart-breaking scenario but it may save the children from further devastation. In other scenarios, one or both of the parents may qualify for addiction treatment, and rehabilitation and counseling can save the family unit.

Expecting a Baby

baby on the wayPreparing for a baby’s arrival is meant to be a very joyous time in an expecting parent’s life. Not only is your imagination full of ideas about how to raise the child and inspire their life’s path, but you get to enjoy preparing for the baby by creating space for them and filling it with gifts of love. It is true that not every pregnancy is filled with happiness. Some pregnancies are unintended, stressful or unwanted. But for the average adult, expecting a baby is a reason to celebrate.

Preparing for a baby’s arrival involves some major life changes. For the mother-to-be, the first thing that changes is her body and the way she cares for it. She should be mindful of what foods and substances are healthy to eat when carrying a baby, and which foods are not. She should follow expert advice on which activities should end until the baby is born, such as strenuous exercise and physical exertion. She should become familiar with the various stages of pregnancy to know what to expect. The last few months will be particularly challenging and uncomfortable, and she will need plenty of support and encouragement.

Another major life change for a mother-to-be and a father-to-be will be preparing the house for a baby. Making the living areas safer is often referred to as “baby-proofing” the house, which usually involves padding all the sharp corners, putting child-proof latches on the cabinets and cupboards and getting anything breakable or toxic well out of reach. There is also the task of preparing the baby’s room. This usually involves choosing colors and decorations, setting up a crib and changing table and adorning the room with toys and figurines that a baby would like. As the due date gets closer, events such as the baby shower will take place and the parents-to-be will be presented with almost every item they need to care for a baby, including clothes, diapers, toys and more.